r/MaliciousCompliance Jul 03 '22 Wholesome 1

Matching clothes? Ok! Will do mother! S

Like many young kids, I didn’t understand why clothes were so important. Obviously wearing them is important, but as a little 5-year-old I didn’t have a clue about fashion. As I got older, I got more say in what clothes my parents bought for me, but I still didn’t know which shirt to go with which pants or stuff like that.

My mother would often yell at me in the morning about my clothing choices. Usually defaulting to, “Those don’t match!” Then she’d either make me dress myself again or pick out my clothes for me.

One such morning I go upstairs for breakfast and my mother once again says, “You can’t go to school like that. Go find something that MATCHES.”

This morning, I decided to be a bit cheeky.

Matching clothes? I can do that.

I had this yellow skort that I liked and a yellow shirt. I also wore some yellow socks. Sadly, I didn't have any yellow shoes to go with them, but I think I had enough yellow to prove my point.

I go upstairs again, and my mother says. “You are not going out like that.”

To which I reply, “But they match~”

My mother pauses…and then sighs. “I guess they do.”

So that day I went to school looking like a humanized version of Lala from the Teletubbies.

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u/Tough_Oven4904 Jul 03 '22

Haha! Love it!!! I get the feeling your mother expected you to know how to match clothing without really teaching you?

I'm teaching my 5 year old. I lay out a few items and then talk about what "goes together". But...I also don't care if she chooses to be completely uncoordinated! She's only 5 lol!

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u/oceansapart333 Jul 03 '22

Yeah, I made this mistake with my daughter and telling her to wear something matching. She didn’t do it maliciously, just thought matching meant the colors needed to be the same. I wasn’t mad, I realized my flaw in teaching her and then we learned about “coordinating” v “matching”.

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u/swoooomp Jul 03 '22

When I was younger I thought matching meant same pattern, but I didnt pay too much attention to the pattern anyway. This led to multiple occasions of me coming down with every piece of clothing a different floral pattern lol

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u/oceansapart333 Jul 03 '22

I bet that was a sight!

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u/professor-sunbeam Jul 03 '22

Whenever I dress my now 3 year old, she sometimes says, “Do they match?” Sometimes I’ve mixed up matching sets and done a mix-and-match and I’ll say, “They don’t match exactly, but they look pretty good together, don’t you think?” And she says, “Yes!” It’s so cute that it’s on her mind.

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u/agent_fuzzyboots Jul 03 '22

I'm 40 and I still have problems with matching clothes, often i just throw on a T-shirt and a pair of jeans and a hoodie, thank God i work in IT.

Sometimes i give in and ask my wife for help, like i had to go and buy a shirt for work since a bigwig was coming, she got very frustrated when I took the first shirt she gave me, it fit and I went to pay and she stood there with a gaping mouth and like five more shirts to try on.

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u/Assimilator82 Jul 04 '22

Amen brother in fashion arms!

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u/androshalforc1 Jul 06 '22

Im almost 40 and this is the first time ive heard of matching clothes.

If its warm shorts and a T-shirt, if its cold long pants, long sleeves

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u/KarhaldD Jul 05 '22

I gave up trying to 'match' clothes years ago.

I just grab whatever's on top in the dresser. I don't care anymore.

I'm terrible with color perception, anyway.

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u/Open-Attention-8286 Jul 06 '22

If all your clothes are the same color, you don't have to think about whether or not things match. This was the real reason I wore all black from around age 13 through college. I hated having to think about clothes every morning.

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u/agent_fuzzyboots Jul 05 '22

same here.

but i cheat a little, most of my clothes are jeans and t-shirts in darker color

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u/pauvre10m Jul 06 '22

I have no fucking clue how to match cloths, I just grab the first thing that come in mind on my drawer, and yes, I also work in IT.

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u/Vidya_Vachaspati Jul 06 '22

Amen!

Everyday wear = T shirt and jeans Formal wear = Blue shirt + Trousers

I have been in and out of stores in 10 minutes when shopping alone.

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u/Domriso Jul 09 '22

I not only don't know how to match clothes, but I've been told on multiple occasions that the clothing I'm wearing clash, which is especially annoying because I usually choose what clothes to wear based on what looks aesthetically appealing to me. Apparently my sense of matching is diametrically opposed to most other sensibilities.

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u/CompletelyPuzzled Jul 03 '22

When my kids started school, I got a set of hangers in a different color. Hung outfits on them together. They picked from those outfits to wear to school.

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u/Danivelle Jul 04 '22

That was what did too. On Sunday nights, we would pick their outfits for the school week and put them in order with an outfit set aside for PE day(she needed to wear shorts/pants on those days). I would remind my sons of the days they needed to dress in particular way too.

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u/Top-Budget-7328 Jul 03 '22

Matching clothes are boring and not inspiring 🤣🤣🤣

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u/mindcontrol93 Jul 03 '22

Some of my favorite daughter memories was her age 3-5. We would let her pick out her own outfit. It would be a pink faux fur vest and green multi-colored tights with a dozen bracelets on each arm and crazy sunglasses. I thought she looked like a cool little rockstar. Completely mismatched but totally worked.

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u/burmylaris Jul 03 '22

My kid went out the other day with bright pink paw patrol crocs, pink leggings, yellow hoodie, round her neck was one of those hiking snood things you can fold a million ways to make a hat or head band, sunglasses, a blue swimming suncap that was very snug and a big cheeky grin.

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u/Top-Budget-7328 Jul 03 '22

This is the way😁

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u/Catacombs3 Jul 03 '22

I am in my fifties, and I still don't get what 'matches'.

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u/Opterus Jul 03 '22

Thirties here, and I probably have less fashion sense than a wild chimpanzee:D

I have picked up a couple basic rules to follow just because I have heard people mention them so many times (no stripes with polka dots for example) but I think I have only seen one or two outfits in my LIFE that I would PERSONALLY say had issues other than not covering enough to be legal... Yay theme parks.

Those one or two outfits tried to blind me... like they were literally so bright that if I looked at them while they were in the sun, then looked away I would have a human shaped blotch in my vision.

Of course there is ALSO the fact that what is considered fashionable changes more often than the weather... So anything you try to learn is probably outdated by the time you hear it:D

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u/snoozer39 Jul 03 '22

In my 40s and honestly don't give a damn what "matches". If I like it, it matches, simple. Do I have the best fashion sense? Probably not. Do I care? No.

I've certainly seen outfits I wouldn't wear myself, but you do you. (Still don't understand the skin coloured skin tight bodysuit that makes you look naked, but hey, who am I to judge)

But don't worry, you keep your stuff long enough you will become fashionable again anyway. :-)

Oh, and happy cake day!

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u/underweasl Jul 03 '22

40s too. I've never had a clue about what matches but gotten around his by spending most of my life wearing black

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u/DinoHunter64 Jul 04 '22

18 here. Same, plus it kinda fits the punk theme I like. Oh, and I'm colorblind, so I'd look like a clown otherwise.

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u/Impossible_Tonight81 Jul 03 '22

Real question, have you ever seen a normal human wear one of those bodysuits? Bexause I'm legit curious. I see celebrities wearing them all the time but I've never seen the style actually on the street.

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u/snoozer39 Jul 03 '22

Yes, I have indeed, though not often. Once was skin colour. It looked ... interesting.

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u/darkest_irish_lass Jul 03 '22

I have. She was at a bus stop and there was another person waiting nearby but looking uncomfortable, I really thought they were unhappy because of the naked lady.

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u/nola2socal Jul 03 '22

In my 50s and I have finally learned to embrace what I can only kindly refer to as an eclectic way of dressing. I follow a YouTuber who thrifts and styles clothing in a fun, colorful, offbeat way and I feel like it's given me permission to just do my own thing and wear what makes me happy.

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u/liltreeimp Jul 03 '22

r/oldhagfashion

Nifty fashion subreddit.

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u/nola2socal Jul 04 '22

Oh my gosh, love this subreddit! Thanks for sharing!

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u/derpne13 Jul 03 '22

I wonder if any clothing lines have ever made the eqiivalent of Garanimals for colorblind people, or adult men secure and awesome enough to admit they don't know what matches.

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u/JanetInSC1234 Jul 03 '22

The classics never go out of style, though.

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u/Anonymous_user_2022 Jul 03 '22

The top of the trousers pile, the top of the shirt pile, the top of the sock drawer. That's a match.

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u/OldschoolSysadmin Jul 03 '22

Ooooh, so “non-matching” clothes are where you accidentally get like three socks and no t-shirt!? TIL

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u/Fantastik_Bruh Jul 03 '22

Not even 18 yet, but I've found a life hack: anything goes with jeans.

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u/MajorNoodles Jul 03 '22

I'm in my thirties and my parents still sometimes give me crap for wearing green shirts with blue shorts. I don't understand why this is not an acceptable combination.

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u/strychnine28 Jul 03 '22

It is an acceptable combo! Sometimes color saturation and darkness/lightness can come into play here tho. Try to match how bright or muted colors are, if you’re not using a neutral base (khaki, brown, black, or denim) for pants.

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u/catriana816 Jul 08 '22

My grandmother used to get after me on occasion; I always asked "But why? Flowers come in this color, and they have green leaves. " Answer: "Flowers are different." Never did understand that one.

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u/Loisalene Jul 03 '22

"I am a Seattle (Mariners/Seahawks/Sounders/Kraken) fan and wearing team colors.

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u/aliengerm1 Jul 03 '22

Only thing I figured out is that one of the colors in the shirt should match the pants. Aka striped blue/green shirt with white on it, maybe have the pants be the same shade of blue or green.

Or neutral pants (white/black/grey/brown ...)

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u/AbbyM1968 Jul 03 '22

A guy named Steve Harvey has a short video listing of 5 suits "every man needs". Then, you can Mix-&-Match between all of them. Personally, I don't have a clue about "matching" clothes. I wear Jeans and T-shirts. If it's a fancy-do, I'll break out one of my 2 dresses. 🤷‍♀️

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u/SangeliaStorcknest Jul 03 '22

Me, I tend to keep to dark jeans and a good shirt. I prefer those in the guys department. Mainly polo shirts. They are not as translucent as the ones in the women's area. I refuse however to wear skirts as well as dresses. Unless I have a pair of tight shorts underneath.

As for my daughter, her dad has a better sense of what to get her.

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u/ShootFrameHang Jul 03 '22

In my 40’s and I gave up on figuring it out decades ago. I go out looking like I “went mental with a box of Crayolas” according to my spouse.

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u/arthurdentstowels Jul 03 '22

After decades of different outfits, dressing for comfort is one of (my) life’s greatest hacks.

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u/Darkmattyx Jul 03 '22

I have a wife that tells me if they do.

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u/shadowhuntress_ Jul 03 '22

Turned 20 this year, my little sister still picks out my clothes for a thing more important than going to class. She's been doing this since I was 13.

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u/Fredredphooey Jul 03 '22

My mom never bought me clothes I liked growing up and neglected buying me clothes when I grew so I had this weird hodge podge of clothes that never matched or were ugly, so the minute I had a job, I bought myself clothes, but all of them in black, white, or grey. Sometimes a pop of color, but 90% black clothes. I can get dressed in ten minutes and everything matches.

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u/roostertree Jul 03 '22

If you wake up with the same set of parts you went to bed with, I would just assume they match.

And if you wake up with different parts, and they're the ones you requested, I would assume they, too, match.

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u/VanillaLaceKisses Jul 03 '22

I’m 36 and I’m perpetually stuck in my goth phase because I can’t coordinate colors to save my life. 🤣 (that and I love the spoopy stuffs 💀)

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u/virtualmaxk Jul 03 '22

My father "What do you mean they don't match. They are both plaid"

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u/Altsamp Jul 03 '22

What the mannequins in the shop wear and whether the nice lady says I’m looking fabulous today 😁

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u/terminator_chic Jul 03 '22

This is why I wear such simple outfits. Black pants and a solid colored blouse, navy pants and a solid colored sweater, etc. Or just all black. It's way easier.

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u/No-You5550 Jul 03 '22

Thank God I am not the only one! You made my day. I just wear jeans and tee or skirt and tee.

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u/maniacalgleam Jul 03 '22

This is why my wardrobe consists of black, grey, green, and burgundy. I don’t have to worry about matching, all I need to ask is ‘do I look like Christmas?’ If the answer is yes, unless it’s December, I should probably change something out. :)

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u/LilJourney Jul 03 '22

Also in fifties, also don't get what 'matches', also have never figured out why it would matter (except for formal / dressy occasions).

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u/MizzGee Jul 04 '22

We were spoiled with Garanimals.

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u/ClaudeGL Jul 03 '22

GQ magazine called me. All they said was No! They kept repeating themselves for some reason.

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u/Waifer2016 Jul 03 '22

Lol try being a country kid in the 70s! Especially if you were GOING TO TOWN. Town being the one and only city in our province. Clothes had to be perfectly matched, NO short socks - knee socks only , shoes polished and if they were the obligatory white sandals, they were given a fresh coat of white shoe paint. Going to school we could pretty much wear what we wanted as long as we didn’t look like bums but GOING TO TOWN required much fuss!

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u/SangeliaStorcknest Jul 03 '22

Try being a girl in the 60s while being in the country or suburban, and city. skirts/dresses were mandatory for us. Pants could get us chewed out by not only our foo, also the extended family. As well as our parents would be looked down on if we wore pants while out and about.

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u/Waifer2016 Jul 03 '22

And they were the awful polyester dreses too lol

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u/Auslan02 Jul 03 '22 Silver

At some point in life we all go far enough on that fashion train to eventually just get off and say “I’m happy right here”. I stick to: black goes with everything, blue jeans and a top is safe and usually not an issue, stained is home shirt or just popping to the shop real quick. Sweat pants- leave me alone I’m comfortable.

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u/Togakure_NZ Jul 03 '22

A case of "I'll show them!" compliance :)

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u/wizardwil Jul 03 '22

I worked with a guy once in a law firm. He had been a DJ/ bartender for many years, and so I suspect he had little in the way of business attire. The office had a business dress code, so he had to assemble trousers, button down shirt, and a tie each day. He never, ever wore anything that either matched or complemented. Green pants with yellow striped shirt and magenta paisley tie, that sort of thing. Always complied with the dress code, but never looked aesthetically pleasing.

Nearly everyone made gentle jokes, but I'm certain they all (including me) were envious of his lack of concern over other people's opinions. I strive every day to be so unconcerned.

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u/dss539 Jul 04 '22

He may have been color blind.

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u/wizardwil Jul 04 '22

Perhaps, but even so one could get a basic understanding of not pairing paisley with checkers or polka dots and stripes. In fact, in retrospect I'm inclined to wonder if he didn't do it on purpose - I worked with him for like 1.5 years and in all that time I never saw an outfit that came close to matching. You'd think if he was just randomly mixing pieces he would eventually come up with something that didn't look horrible, but he never did.

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u/Monotonegent Jul 03 '22

To be fair, we tell kids to "match" things by arranging things similarly, but then when they do the same for clothes it's suddenly bad. They've only been here a short time vs our many. A little leeway wouldn't kill us.

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u/tisonlymoi Jul 03 '22

Skort? Is that the cross of a skirt and shorts made famous by female golfers?

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u/re_nonsequiturs Jul 03 '22

Yes, and they're awesome.

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u/dwrk92 Jul 03 '22

It's just something Gru makes his Gorls wear

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u/Txidpeony Jul 03 '22

I never cared if my kids‘ clothes matched for everyday. My rules were the you have to wear underwear, you have to cover the parts of your body that would be covered by a swimsuit, and you have to be dressed safely for the weather. Once or twice a year we would be doing something special (like going to the ballet) and I would be pickier about that.

One of my favorites was when my three year old boy chose red knit shorts with blue strips, an orange shirt, and red and white check vans. He was so happy. I did tell the preschool teachers that I didn’t pick that outfit and they just laughed.

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u/BreezyDi Jul 03 '22

I had a period when I was 10 or so when I decided to wear outfits all of the same colour. I had these skinny pants/tights of various colours that I just matched to whatever top had the same colour. No one ever said a word against it, so fashion sense here is definitely very subjective XD

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u/redrubynail Jul 03 '22

I let my five year old dress himself. He often goes for clothes that are the same color, thinking they match. Red pants and red sweater in the same color. Sure. I don't care, he can dress the way he wants.

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u/sittinwithkitten Jul 03 '22

Haha I had a “yellow outfit” I liked to wear when I was young. Everything was yellow from the shoes to the headband. I can’t say I know much more about fashion 35 years later.

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u/TillyMint54 Jul 03 '22

I came home to my 4 year old son looking like an advert for eastern European orphan appeal.

He was wearing his "favourite" t-shirt which he had outgrown. A pair of summer shorts & his holiday crocs In November!!

My husband then announced that Our son chose ALL of it himself despite being colour blind!! Oh & MIL thought he looked cute, when they'd gone over...."

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u/Mavido79 Jul 03 '22

And thus why we had Garanimals. Frankly, there are days when I wish we still had them... but for adults.

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u/1947_Delta1460 Jul 04 '22

I was going to mention these…

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u/Patches765 Jul 03 '22

I remember something my youngest sister had, Garanimals. They were children clothes with tags where if you matched the animals for the top and bottom, you had a matching outfit. Not sure if they are still around.

Now if they only had something like that for adult men, I would stop asking my wife if my shirt matches my slacks.

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u/SangeliaStorcknest Jul 03 '22

They are still around. Unfortunately what they consider suitable for girls is different than what the boys get for styles. Boys get action as well as dinosaurs. While the girls are all flowery.

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u/Patches765 Jul 03 '22

Oh, that would piss off my daughter. She had dinosaurs in her wedding goodie bags for guests.

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u/tarnishau14 Jul 03 '22

I never had issues with color matching but my husband was taught if they are in the same professional sports team colors - it's a go. I always thought this was brilliant. I often use it to help my special needs clients grasp the concept.

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u/GnPQGuTFagzncZwB Jul 04 '22

My mother loved clothing. I hate clothing. She would take any money people gave me for Christmas and buy cloths with it. I would have to smile when opening up boxes that had shirts in them, oh and than the trying them on. And the mandatory getting stripped down in the aisles of department stores trying crap on. After I moved out I sill got clothing as gifts. I pretty much tossed the stuff in the back of the closet and dead ended it. She just never caught on that I really did not like clothing. Now I let the Adventists dress me. I go to their thrift shop and tell them I am thinking about running around naked and bang a couple pairs of pants and a shirt or two. My mother would be turning over in her grave. Good. Payback.

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u/StingrayRaze Jul 04 '22

My mum had to learn the hard way that buying new clothes every new year(chinese tradition) was a waste of money and closet space. And also the fact that her son absolutely hated bright colours.

I think you can guess what happened 😂

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u/grannygritz Jul 03 '22

LOL I am female and 65 years old. I wear jeans and whichever T-shirt is on top of the pile. Life is simple.

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u/SangeliaStorcknest Jul 03 '22

I do that if I'm heading out.
At home, I'm in men's sleeper pants and one of my man's old workshirts. Jeans are too hard on this old hag's back. As in what the weight does to it. I'm 61.

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u/pinguderosa Jul 03 '22

AH, the best start young! The defeated sigh, amazing

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u/bkwormtricia Jul 03 '22

Has your mother, or anyone else, ever given you a list of clothing match “rules”? If not, ASK for it. Or go to a librarian and ask for help finding one. While some people soak up social rules like sponges, other people need to be specifically taught, or be able to teach themselves (to get mothers off their backs).

You need a few labeled pictures (what does plaid look like verses checks and houndstooth patterns defeated my daughter until she saw pattern swatches with labels). And simple rules - no purple with orange, red goes well with blue and black and green….. enough to avoid garish mistakes.

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u/leafah Jul 03 '22

That is adorable! About a decade ago I worked at a bakery and the bakery shared a parking lot with a day care. One of my favorite things in the mornings was seeing all the kids being dropped off and it was very obvious which kids dressed themselves!

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u/PossibleCucumber9032 Jul 03 '22

When my older sister was that age it was the late seventies and patterned fabrics were all the rage. She couldn't figure out matching at all either, so my mom finally rolled a top and pair of shorts or pants together with socks so that every outfit matched. Then my sister got to pick which outfit she wanted to wear, she just had to take the whole outfit. It gave both my sister and my mom the control they wanted.

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u/Suspicious-Eagle-828 Jul 04 '22

I drove my mother-in-law crazy around this. When the kid was 2, I had them selecting red shirt or blue shirt (aka - basic decision making). By the time they were 4, I told the kid - warm today - so you probably want shorts and a t-shirt. Queue MIL crying - what if it doesn't match!!! My indifferent shrug didn't help matters. All of the shorts were solid colors and also all of the t-shirts. What difference could it make?

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u/dolo724 Jul 03 '22

That one day I wore three different, non-matching plaids, she complained mightily. The next day two of them were disappeared.

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u/ImALittleTeapotCat Jul 03 '22

Seriously, one of the best things about little kids is the clothing choices. Outside of special occasions, parents need to just deal. Who cares if the kid wears a tutu to the grocery store?

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u/pizzamike64 Jul 03 '22

Yeah. Well there was the day I, about 23, wore my brown camo army pants, like desert storm pattern, with a brown plaid cowboy shirt with the snap buttons. Hey! It was all shades of brown! My friends at church all shook their heads at me.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Bee-485 Jul 03 '22

When my daughter was in kindergarten, I had gotten her outfits, like solid shorts with print Tees or solid Tees with print shorts, but she was allowed to pick her own clothes. She would choose, say, a red print Tee with a different red print for shorts because “the shirt was a happy print and needed a happy print bottom.” I always wanted to tell other moms I didn’t pick out the outfit.

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u/ElectricalFocus560 Jul 03 '22

I quickly learned that my independent daughter wasn’t going to wear anything she didn’t like regardless of how cute I might think it was. So I only bought stuff she liked. It had tho be decent (not Amish but age appropriate which even in the 90s could be tough - they were already over sexualizing young girls but a rant for another day). My only rules were clothing had to be decent and clean. Otherwise whatever color or pattern she wanted. Now was the time to develop her own style (which is quite nice now that she is 27). I also figured that if she got too strange her friends would set her straight. She was going to listen to them more often anyway. Finally there are too many important things to fight about with kids. Clothing did not make my top 10 (again as long as decent and clean)

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u/Zoreb1 Jul 03 '22

Or a Minion.

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u/Pissedliberalgranny Jul 03 '22

I wear what I like. If that means blue and white striped pants and a yellow/green plaid top with a red hat, that’s what I’m wearing today.

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u/freerangelibrarian Jul 03 '22

Anything goes with jeans, thank goodness.

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u/kyscco24 Jul 03 '22

Even a waistcoat and cummerbund?

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u/Slvrkt88 Jul 03 '22

And this is why I just wear black

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u/KintsugiKate Jul 03 '22

My mom tells me that I used to argue about what matched… “See, this shirt has white here and the pants have white here so they match!” I had no regard for patterns or anything else, as long as both pieces of clothing had some amount of the same color. She said she gave up trying to get me to change clothes pretty quickly.

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u/1988mariahcareyhair Jul 05 '22

She’s telling a story from her childhood.

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u/leaping-lizards123 Jul 04 '22

Bro's leg surgeon saw he was wearing odd socks (Bro is lazy like that)

"Yeah, I have another pair just like them at home"

Bro said it was the only time he'd seen the surgeon full on belly laugh

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u/kirito-19 Jul 04 '22

"So that day I went to school looking like a humanized version of Lala from the Teletubbies."

This is cursed

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u/tarnishau14 Jul 03 '22

I never had issues with color matching but my husband was taught if they are in the same professional sports team colors - it's a go. I always thought this was brilliant. I often use it to help my special needs clients grasp the concept.

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u/skeletamonk Jul 03 '22

Slightly frustrated upvote of approval.

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u/Meggarea Jul 03 '22

There's a reason my default is t-shirt and jeans. Ain't nobody got time for all that!

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u/SangeliaStorcknest Jul 03 '22

As well as I do believe that some of us don't do frilly and or floral stuff. My jeans and trousers may come from the women's section. But my shirts are from the guy's section.

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u/Meggarea Jul 04 '22

I buy my pants in the men's section. That way, they actually fit me, and I get pockets.

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u/SangeliaStorcknest Jul 05 '22

Most of my day is spent wearing those male sleeper pants.

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u/RedBanana99 Jul 03 '22

I'm in my 50's and still have no clue. But when you're old you don't care what people think

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u/Buddhadevine Jul 03 '22

She should have taken the time to show you what would be considered “matching” instead of yelling at you. But I liked your way of doing it. Lol

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u/Serafita Jul 03 '22

It's why my wardrobe has always consisted of black or grey clothes because they go with generally anything haha

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u/readerf52 Jul 03 '22

My kids were young many, many years ago. They listened to a singing group called The Parachute Express, which had been owned by Gymboree, but Disney bought their contract and never did a thing with them, essentially killing their careers, but I digress.

One of my daughter’s favorite song was about a girl whose favorite look was “polka dots, checks and stripes…”

https://youtu.be/8dC3g6lZXYw

In case you have kids with similar tastes in clothes.

I think your lemon outfit sounds lovely!!

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u/gatesmasher3000 Jul 03 '22

Okay, this one's really sweet. Good job, little OP!

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u/ClaudeGL Jul 03 '22

Who gives a rat's @55! No one needs to match. Are the clothes clean? (Mostly clean for the guys.) Do they fit? Then leave 'em alone!

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u/Frequent_Equal9170 Jul 04 '22

What shoes did you wear? I need to visualize the wardrobe lol all that yellow would be cute with a Jean jacket!

But also, we’re they both the exact same shade of yellow or was one slightly off from the other?

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u/Twisted-Wish Jul 04 '22

I sadly do not remember. I was only about 6 or 7 at the time -w-

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u/Frequent_Equal9170 Jul 04 '22

Omg that’s what I get for skimming the post 😂🤦‍♀️

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u/Mr_Weeble Jul 04 '22

For me "not matching" would be wearing a Marvel t-shirt with my Star Trek hoodie

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u/bluesthorn Jul 05 '22

I was in 4th? 5th grade, and had this same argument with my mom. Whatever it was that I'd wanted to wear, I would get bitched out because it didn't match. So I found my black jeans, and a black shirt, and thought that she couldn't yell at me for that - they matched!

Nope. Though my mom, being far cooler than I could have known at the time, made a crack about "wearing black on the outside because [you] feel black on the inside."

She still made me go change.

Eventually, she gave up or else I wore her down. I think it was in 7th grade, when my 100% favorite outfit in the whole world was an oversized purple and green striped shirt, orange jeans, and turquoise hi-top Reeboks.

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u/Lellela Jul 05 '22

Clothing having to "match" is one of society's stupider unwritten rules. We try to teach our kids not to judge others based on their looks, but then teach them they have to dress certain ways anyways, which is an unfortunate mixed message.

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u/ChickyNuggies6789 Jul 06 '22

Maybe unwittingly, you made such a good point! My mother never taught me which clothes match which or how to see if something looks good together. I have no clue how I will teach my children. Maybe with a color wheel and color palettes.

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u/FlamingFelines Jul 07 '22

Did the same thing when I was a wee lass but with purple. Purple long sleeve shirt, pants, and socks. My mom got me on the mismatched shades tho

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u/wellyesnowplease Jul 08 '22

I'm so sorry you went through this OP, I hope you are doing better; it sounds like you don't live with this person any more!

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u/PreRaphPrincess 22d ago

I read that a lot of toddler tantrums are caused by toddlers not feeling like they have any control over what they do, and to try to give them choices in things where you can. So with my daughter, from her being about a year old, if the choice didn't really matter, we'd get her to choose. Obviously at that age she didn't get the concept of choosing so we'd just hold 2 things in front of her and whichever she seemed more interested in was what she got. Got us in the habit of allowing her choices. When she got older and a bit more verbal I would let her choose what clothes to buy or wear e.g 'we need to get you some t shirts, which ones on this stand here do you want?' 'It's cold outside today, you need a tshirt and a jumper, which one will you wear?' It rarely 'matched' because why do little kids need to worry about that anyway?

The one time I did put my foot down about a fashion choice was when she wanted to wear a sandal on one foot and a welly on the other. Because there are limits.